I really strongly believe that. I feel like even though there are many people in the world that you’d find yourself clashing with, that doesn’t necessarily mean that it is impossible to find something beautiful in them. I came to this realization while watching TV shows and looking at how the characters progressed over time. There are characters with overwhelmingly negative qualities… things that I just couldn’t accept to be good, like racism, being controlled by their addictions, or putting blame on others for misfortunes that they brought upon themselves… But I realized that there were other things about these characters that made them beautiful in a way. Some of them were extremely driven to succeed. Some of them were doing evil things to protect the people that they loved. Some of them had to make terrible choices just so they could survive… And I think that these are beautiful things, and if we weren’t always so judgmental, clouded by all our observations and existence in the living world, we might just commend them for these qualities, and excuse the negative ones, because in the end, we’re all connected.
This is something that I try to remember when I meet people that just piss me off right off the bat. I try to look for something, a redeeming quality. I try to think about their intentions, their values, their background… Everything that I know of them, everything that makes them who they are. I don’t try to excuse their mistakes or their negative qualities, but I do try to give them a fair chance, either to impress me and change my perception of them, or to disappoint me and solidify these perceptions. I’m not in this world to be friends with everyone. If that was my goal, I’d probably be driven to insanity by everyone’s clashing objectives in the world, but I am in this world to learn and understand others. One of the best ways to do that is to spend time with people you wouldn’t necessarily get along with.
– Tommy Maverick