I’ve been thinking about relationships recently for some reason. I figured that a blog post about what I personally look for in relationships would be an interesting read, so I’m listing the 10 most important things I look for in a relationship… If you’re interested, take notes! ;) hahaha It’s not necessarily what kind of person I’d like to date though, since I like to believe that I’m open-minded and curious enough to enjoy the company of many different kinds of people!
However, I DO have a thing for people who speak other languages… Just going to put that out there ;) But don’t be deterred if you don’t! :) So yeah, here it goes!
I can’t have a relationship that isn’t based on friendship. I have many friends, but VERY FEW OF THEM are close friends. At some point, you would have to become one of my best friends. Of course, that might not be the case right off the bat. haha In the beginning, I just want to feel like I can trust you. I also want to know that if I was having a REALLY SHITTY DAY, I could call you, and it would change everything :)
You Know How to Have Fun
I’m a REALLY social person, and I like to go places that I’ve never been. I like to make memories and have EXPERIENCES, so you have to be down to skydive, climb to Machu Picchu, and visit foreign countries where we don’t understand the language. You have to want to experience life as well :) But of course, simple fun is good too… Then, there are parties! I love parties, but I also love relaxing at home and spending laid back time together. Here’s a lil’ breakdown on each of those scenarios:
I like to drink alcohol. I want you to drink with me, and I ONLY DRINK SHOTS. I like Tequila, Jager, Vodka, and anything else that will get me drunk and ISN’T Whiskey (unless it’s that Fireball stuff… YUM!). If you can drink more than me, you’re awesome because it’s like a competition and I think that competition is hot! On the other hand, I also like restraint. Either way works, but I’m going to want you to prove that you can hang ;) haha Dress really sexy, get in lots of pictures, and make other guys jealous of me! haha I’ll make girls jealous of you of course by looking really nice and being awesome! :) If we’re in a club or a party with a dance floor, we’ve got to dance… Like, it’s one of my favorite things to do. Do you know Bachata? Teach me. And, if you can’t get down to some Dubstep… then I’ll be sad. hahaha I love Dubstep, DnB, and Hardstyle! Actually… ALL EDM EVER. Let’s fucking RAVE.
At home, I want to sit down on a couch and cuddle while we watch something fucking awesome. Private time… but let’s have friends over. Let’s talk about how our day was… Let’s enjoy some silence, or really pretty noises! :) Music on speakers… Various genres… Sometimes, I’ll play for you. Can you play with me? I’d like that. I want to teach you how to play if you can’t. When we’re together, I want it to be sweet and nice… Let’s be intimate and close please! ;)
Generally, a person is FUN when they are creative, spontaneous, and are willing to try new things just because they are new! I’m trying to experience life to the fullest, and if I’m going to be in a relationship, I’d want to be in one with someone who can do that too :)
Relationship that Fosters Individual Growth
I’m 21… I’m still growing up, honestly. I want to develop as a person, so you’re going to have to give me the space I need to explore the world around me and accomplish things! Sometimes, I’m going to go places without you… and you have to be okay with that. I’d expect you to go places without me sometimes too, and I’d like it if we could tell each other about how awesome the things we do apart are and share the experiences :) I don’t want you to be in every single one of my Facebook profile pictures either, just because my Facebook is a representation of me as a person, not our relationship, but you WILL be in some of them :) So, generally, let’s respect each other’s space and not be too clingy! haha
Not a Long Distance Relationship
I want to touch you and FEEL YOU. I won’t want to be lonely, cold at night, crying to myself about how I HAVE NO ONE (that’s an exaggeration, but you know, it sucks to feel lonely!). Let’s set aside time for each other… I’ve got to at least see you every week! haha If it’s going to be long-distance some times (because of our careers or lifestyles) we’ve got to make up for it all when we’re together.
We have Sex
I won’t go into too much detail here, but like I’m thinking that a girl in their 20’s would be capable of doing it at least once a week… That’s all I ask for really, and I can’t imagine that you’d want to do it less than that because… let’s just say that I’m “talented” ;)
We Support Each Others’ Passions
I make music, I write, I create, and I am trying to make a career out of it all. That is my NUMBER ONE PRIORITY. I would not let ANY relationship come in between me and my career… but if you support it and allow me to support yours, we are going to be a fucking awesome team :) I love being there for people and inspiring them when they need to be inspired, but they’ve got to let me in, so introduce me to the world of WHAT YOU DO, and I’ll respect you more and more. Your passions will become my passions, just as mine will become yours :)
You Have Your Own Life, Aspirations, and Friends
I don’t like to hang out with ANYONE every day… It sounds bad, but what I mean is that you should be busy enough and have enough friends to where you could go a day or two without seeing me. I’d still love to talk during that time of course, but I have a lot to do in a week, so sometimes, I won’t be able to hang out. I want to be with someone who is ambitious and has friends that aren’t really like mine! And while I believe that it’s important to have some separation in that regard to friends, it’s also good to occasionally mix and mingle :)
I Learn about a subject or lifestyle/occupation by being in the Relationship
I really love learning about things… Like, being with you should teach me something. I want to learn about what you do for a living, how that industry works, how people are where you came from, that kind of stuff… I want to come out of the relationship with a whole new perspective on the things that matter to you. I want the things you love to become things that I love. I want to learn about your religion (or lack of one) and your dreams, your thoughts, your friendships, and your past! It helps me appreciate life more. It helps me stay strong and hopeful and inspire others.
And those are the main points, I guess :) Recently, I’ve been thinking I might want to go back on the whole plan to be single for a year. Like, what if I miss out on a truly amazing experience?! I’m going to do whatever feels right.
What do YOU look for in a relationship? You can answer that in the comments! :)
– Tommy Maverick